That’s the Google search that brings the most people to this blog. I’ve addressed some of the bullshit that’s out there about the nature of being an empath, I try to assure folks that having the capacity to feel the emotional energies of others is real. It is real, it is purposeful, and has little to do with one’s beliefs, identification as literal, logical, psychic or spiritual.
It is the most visceral expression of our interconnected nature and the presence of love.
It seems important to put this out there again:
There is so much craptastic stuff that’s being cut & pasted into ‘facts’ about what being a psychic empath is & how to be one that I decided to address it rather than keep bitching about it. The myth-based framework perpetuates the misplaced ideal of empath as an overly sensitive soul, unable to move through the world without fear, hiding behind barriers to others and other, frankly, cowardly crap. Once we move past the fluff-n-stuff we can get to the nitty gritty of what being an empath is all about. And the significant roles we play in leading & guiding others.Although empaths have the capacity to do so, being an empath is about a whole lot more than feeling other people’s emotions & other energies. It is about our connection to others, about engaging with others openly & honestly. However, it’s even deeper than that. Before we can connect and engage with others at something more than a superficial level, we first must be able to do that with ourselves. Accept that responsibility first, then accept the responsibility for others. Because that’s what this stuff is about. Being an empath is about others, about what we emit & how we transmit as much as the manner in which we receive. We’re not meant to feel others for the sake of the feeling alone. And, usually, the gift of ’empath’ isn’t a stand alone. It’s more often than not accompanied by a purpose, passion, job, direction, gift, talent, desire that allows us to turn that ‘feeling’ into life-changing connection to a person or group of people. That‘s what this is about. To be an empath, an empowered one–one that comes from a place of strength, compassion, knowing & readiness for action (which sometimes means not acting at all)–takes the willingness & capacity to know ourselves intimately. To recognize aspects of ourselves that we’re often not comfortable doing–particularly those aspects that are related to emotion. Almost always, those emotions we’re not comfortable with are grounded in relationship to another person or a group of people. For many that has been coupled with being taught or teaching themselves not to express those emotions and there has developed a fear of both. And it’s time to get past that. This is where the rubber not only hits the road but moves and creates change for individuals and communities. There’s always been a mystery connected to psychic phenomena. Ideas of what it means to be an empath have been as twisted as many other things related to the unseen and unknowable. But, in my experience & knowing, past all the bullshit and blather, the role of an empath is very simple: it is about truly connecting with other people and creating change within ourselves and for others in our own unique way. When you choose to do so, your world will open up in ways you’ve never had the capacity to even imagine.