Every time you try to “raise someone’s vibration” or convince their higher self of something that you deem more important, you are judging somebody in one of the cruelest ways. It’s an attempt to get what you want to feed your own sense of self. It has nothing to do with wanting to meet someone where they are, love them without condition.
Stop that.
You’re not ‘ascending’ anywhere faster or pushing them in that direction when you do that.
Your job is to love. Period. Practice that.